Help Your Team Manage Stress and Build Resilience: 10 Tips for Leaders

Stress is inevitable, the world is full of change and uncertainty, and it’s a challenge we all face - at work and at home. As leaders your people’s wellbeing and helping them to manage stress and build resilience, or inner strength, is no longer a tick box exercise, it’s essential.

With the right tools and support, stress can be managed effectively, leading not only to healthier individuals but also to a stronger, more resilient team.

1. Understanding Pressure vs. Stress

It’s essential to recognise the difference between pressure and stress. Like Goldilocks, the goal is to find “just right” pressure—not too little and not too much.

• Productive Pressure: When managed well, pressure can keep us focused and motivated. In the right amount, it enhances performance.

• Excessive Pressure: If it becomes overwhelming, however, pressure crosses into stress, leading to fatigue, irritability, and decreased performance.

Actionable Tips: 

Encourage team members to recognise when they feel engaged and focused rather than tense or overwhelmed. Set Short, Manageable Goals to maintain a sense of progress and keep pressure in check. Smaller goals can keep productivity high without overwhelming the team. Remind your team to take short, refreshing breaks to recalibrate during peak pressure periods. Simple actions like stepping outside or taking a few deep breaths can prevent the shift from pressure into stress.

2. Acknowledge and Accept Your Emotions

When you feel stress building, could you take a moment to acknowledge it. Awareness of how you feel physically and emotionally helps you address stress before it becomes overwhelming.

• Recognise the Signs: Pay attention to physical cues like a racing heartbeat or shallow breathing. These are your body’s “check engine” lights.

• Pause for Perspective: Rather than reacting instantly, pause and reflect. Ask yourself, “Will this matter a month from now? What would my wisest friend advise?” This bird’s-eye view can provide much-needed clarity.

Actionable Tips:

Encourage team members to identify and name their emotions (e.g., “I feel anxious” or “I’m frustrated”). Research shows that labelling emotions reduces intensity, helping you feel more in control. Use Reflective Questions: Teach your team to ask themselves reflective questions when stressed. For instance, “What’s in my control here?” or “What would help me feel calmer?” This promotes a more balanced response rather than an immediate reaction.

3. Lead with Empathy

Being an empathetic leader is one of the most powerful ways to build resilience. When leaders take the time to understand each team member's unique challenges and stressors, it can make a significant difference in how they approach their work. Empathy builds trust and shows your team that they’re valued beyond their productivity.

Actionable Tip:

Use empathy in your day-to-day interactions by actively listening and offering tailored support when challenges arise. Sometimes, a quick conversation or a kind word can make all the difference.

4. Foster Open Communication

One of the best ways to help your team manage stress is to create a culture of open, honest communication. This starts with you, the leader, being transparent and approachable. Encourage your team to share their concerns, listen actively, and respond with empathy. When employees feel they can talk openly about challenges without judgment, they are more likely to address issues proactively, reducing stress in the long run.

Actionable Tips:

Start meetings with a brief personal update to set an example. When leaders share openly, team members feel more comfortable doing the same. Implement “Psychological Safety” Rules by establishing norms where everyone feels they can voice concerns without fear of judgment. One simple rule is, “All questions are good questions.” Reinforce that it’s okay to ask for help or say, “I don’t understand.”

Schedule informal one-on-one check-ins every few weeks to provide a safe space for team members to share any stressors or workload concerns. Actively listen, empathize, and brainstorm ways to address any challenges they bring up.

5. Encourage Work-Life Balance

While productivity is essential, balance is key to long-term success. Constant work without adequate rest can lead to burnout, so it's important to encourage breaks, time off, and healthy boundaries between work and personal life.

Actionable Tip:

Model work-life balance yourself by setting boundaries. For example, avoid sending emails after work hours, and use your vacation days. When your team sees you prioritise balance, they are more likely to do the same.

6. Give Your Team with Stress Management Tools

Resilience isn’t just about bouncing back; it’s about having the right tools to cope with challenges in real-time. Offering workshops or providing resources on stress management techniques like mindfulness, time management, and exercise can help your team develop skills to handle stress effectively.

Actionable Tip:

Organise a monthly wellness day or provide access to resources like meditation apps or fitness classes. Small investments in well-being can go a long way in helping employees manage stress.

7. Recognise and Reward Efforts

When people feel appreciated, they are more engaged and motivated. Recognition can be a powerful way to mitigate stress and build resilience. Celebrating successes, even small ones, helps create a positive work environment and reinforces a sense of purpose.

Actionable Tip:

Develop a simple system for celebrating achievements, such as a monthly shout-out in team meetings or a “thank you” board in the office. Positive reinforcement promotes a culture of support and resilience.

8. Build a Sense of Team Unity

Teams that support one another through tough times are more resilient. Fostering strong team bonds encourages employees to lean on one another for support, which can alleviate individual stress levels.

Actionable Tip:

Schedule team-building activities that align with your team’s interests, whether that’s a casual lunch, a team sports day, or a virtual trivia night. A unified team handles stress more effectively and comes together to support each other in times of need.

9. Encourage Flexibility

Allowing flexibility can reduce stress by giving employees some control over how and when they work best. This could mean flexible hours, remote work options, or allowing team members to switch tasks based on energy and focus levels.

Actionable Tip:

Consider implementing “focus hours” where employees can work uninterrupted or allow flexible start and end times for those who may be balancing work with other responsibilities.

10. Provide Learning and Development Opportunities

Learning opportunities can help employees feel empowered and equipped to handle challenges. When team members have room to grow and develop new skills, they’re more resilient in the face of change and better prepared to manage stress.

Actionable Tip: Start with my free online workshop How to Cope with Stress & Build Resilience.
Join this workshop to discover practical tools to strengthen your resilience and support your teams. We'll delve into:
🌿 What is Wellness
🌪️ Distinguishing Pressure from Stress
🚦 Establishing Healthy Boundaries and Habits
🌟 Overcoming Overwhelm
🌱 Cultivating Resilience
🧘 How to support your team

👇 BOOK A PLACE 👇

This workshop can also be tailored to run for teams and organisations in-person or virtually.

Do I need an Executive Coach?

Do I need an Executive Coach?

Have you ever thought about working with an Executive Coach, but not sure if it’s right for you?

Coaching is for anyone who wants to unlock their full potential.

A coach will help you explore your business and personal development goals and ambitions and achieve them. They can support you to build self-awareness, emotional intelligence, confidence, leadership and relationships with others.

An Executive Coach will act like a sounding board to help you think through, clarify your thoughts, shift perspective, resolve challenges and achieve your goals. Coaching is forward-looking and action-oriented.

A Coach is always on your side, they’re not there to tell you what to do, but as your guide. They will help you create a plan, help you celebrate what you have achieved and hold you accountable for achieving more.

Coaching will help you to:

• Build self-awareness and emotional intelligence.

• Make clear decisions and get stuff done

• Enhance your leadership and management skills

• Improve your relationships with others

• Sharpen your communications skills

• Be more confident and resilient.

What is Coaching

1. SPACE FOR YOU

When business and life are so busy, it’s often impossible to step back and see things with perspective. Time with a coach encourages you to stop, step back, and gain perspective. It encourages you to make time to ’work on’ the business or yourself. 

Your time with a coach is space for you alone - it’s entirely non-judgemental, private, and confidential.

2. YOU SET THE AGENDA 

The focus of the coaching is down to you. Working with a coach usually begins with an exploratory chat to identify the topics or themes you want to work on over a number of sessions. 

The coach will guide you through a series of conversations to dig deep into those topics.
The coach’s role is to make the discussions as constructive as possible.

3. FEEL HEARD

Leadership is lonely. When was the last time you felt someone was entirely focussed on listening to you and had the time and space to focus on you? A coach is there to listen and support. Coaches are experienced in deep listening. You are free to talk about anything you need including things, that you feel you can’t talk about with your manager, your colleagues, your family or friends.
A coach won’t judge or criticise.

4. FIND CLARITY, SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE AND OVERCOME OBSTACLES

Unlike counselling or therapy which tends to unpack the past, coaching is about the future. It’s about growth and development. Although it may sometimes involve exploring self-sabotaging thoughts or blocks that have held you back in the past, so you can move around them.


5. MAKE BETTER DECISIONS

Making big decisions can be stressful - sometimes we get lost in all the what-ifs. A coach will help you to evaluate the options and possible outcomes. Giving you perspective to make decisions more easily and confidently and reduce stress.

6. FOCUS ON THE FUTURE

A coach will help you to identify and achieve goals. A business coach may work with you to identify business objectives, while an executive or leadership coach help you to develop such as boosting confidence, improving time management, building better relationships or becoming a better leader.

7. MOTIVATION AND STIMULATION

Finally, coaching can be fun and rewarding. A coach should inspire and motivate you. It will stimulate you to explore new options and motivate you to move forward. Importantly a good coach will provide a relaxed, empathetic environment where you feel safe and can smile.

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How to choose a coach

If you are thinking about working with a coach it is important to find one that you like and can connect with and build rapport. You can get a good sense of a coach from their website but you should request an initial chat to find out more about them and establish if there is a good fit.

How does coaching work in practice?

Executive coaching takes place across a number of sessions over a period of time, typically 9–12 sessions across 6–9 months. The space in between sessions is important so the leader can test out new approaches and behaviours they have committed to in their previous session, then debrief and build on it in the next session. Executive coaching sessions can be delivered either face-to-face or virtually. A mixture of both can be used over time.

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Work with me - Polly Robinson Executive Coach / Leadership Coach

I am a qualified Executive Coach and Mentor (ILM Level 7) working with business leaders and senior managers in all sectors. I will become a supportive friend, a listening ear, and a shoulder to lean on.

I’m based in Bristol and coaching people across the South West, London, Wales and all over the UK. I work with coachees face-to-face or online via Zoom or other video platforms. 

We will build a strong and trusting relationship, where I will support and challenge you to focus on your values and what is important for your business and your life to inform your decisions and choices. You will identify objectives and remove the barriers that may be getting in the way of continued growth and success.

We will create space for a series of constructive conversations where you are able to be open and honest and sometimes tackle difficult topics. I will support and sometimes challenge your perspective - helping you to understand yourself better.

Free trial coaching session

If you’d like to find out more about whether coaching is right for you, and take advantage of a free 30min coaching session, contact me.

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Building Confidence in Leadership: A Guide to Success

Building Confidence in Leadership: A Guide to Success

Confidence is the foundation of leadership.

It drives decisions, shapes behaviours, and influences how others perceive and respond to you. A confident leader inspires trust, while a lack of confidence can sow seeds of doubt, not only within the leader themselves but also in their team. And here’s the truth: everyone, even the most accomplished leaders, faces moments of self-doubt. The secret lies in how they overcome it and continue moving forward.

Many leaders, especially those newly appointed or taking on greater responsibilities, struggle with imposter syndrome—the persistent feeling that they don’t deserve their position or are not truly qualified. This is more common than you might think, affecting both men and women, and can lead to anxiety, overworking, or perfectionism. However, confidence isn’t something you're born with—it’s a skill you can develop. The good news is that with the right strategies, you can build your leadership confidence and transform self-doubt into self-assurance. Here’s how:

1. Embrace Self-Awareness as Your Foundation

Leadership confidence starts with knowing yourself. Understand your strengths, but also your areas for growth. Self-awareness helps you manage how you react in high-pressure situations, recognise your triggers, and cultivate emotional intelligence. Regular self-reflection will allow you to view challenges as opportunities for growth, not as threats to your capabilities.

Make time to assess your emotional landscape, recognise your values, and understand your personal leadership style. Reflect on past experiences—what were your successes and failures, and what did you learn from both? With heightened self-awareness, you'll not only build confidence but also develop empathy, which is crucial for effective leadership.

2. Leverage Feedback as Fuel

While self-reflection is essential, external feedback provides the full picture. Seek constructive criticism from trusted peers, mentors, or your team. Honest, well-rounded feedback gives you a clearer sense of how you’re perceived, where you excel, and what can be improved. It’s important to create an environment where feedback is welcomed, not feared, so that those around you feel comfortable being honest with you.

Receiving feedback might sometimes be uncomfortable, but view it as a gift. If you take criticism constructively, it will help you grow and reinforce your confidence in the long run.

3. Celebrate Wins

Leaders often focus so much on their next goals that they forget to acknowledge their achievements. Celebrating even small victories will reinforce your belief in your abilities. Write down your successes—whether it’s navigating a tough decision, resolving a team conflict, or landing a key client—and return to this list whenever self-doubt creeps in.

This isn’t about being boastful, but about reminding yourself that you’ve earned your place as a leader. Keeping track of your achievements not only boosts morale but provides a record of the value you bring to the table.

4. Develop a Growth Mindset

Leaders with a growth mindset view challenges and setbacks as learning opportunities. Instead of fearing failure, embrace it as a stepping stone to improvement. This mindset shift is vital for developing leadership confidence because it reframes how you approach risks and decisions. You’ll become more resilient, adaptive, and, ultimately, more confident in handling complex or unfamiliar situations.

Ask yourself after every experience: What did I learn? What could I do differently next time? Continuous learning, both from success and failure, will reinforce that you are always growing and getting better.

5. Prioritise Self-Care and Resilience

Confidence isn’t just a mental game—it’s physical and emotional as well. Leadership roles are demanding, so it’s important to nurture your well-being. Prioritise your health, set clear boundaries to avoid burnout, and give yourself permission to recharge. Physical fitness, mindfulness, and adequate rest aren’t just good habits—they also fuel confidence by giving you the energy and focus to tackle challenges head-on.

Develop resilience by adopting routines that calm and centre you, like regular exercise, meditation, or journaling. Resilience in leadership doesn’t mean avoiding stress—it means bouncing back from adversity with greater strength.

6. Build Trust Through Vulnerability

It might seem counterintuitive, but displaying vulnerability can actually strengthen your leadership. When leaders show they don’t have all the answers or admit to making mistakes, it humanises them and fosters deeper connections with their teams. Admitting when you need help doesn’t weaken your leadership—it shows you’re confident enough to rely on others and value their input.

By being transparent about your challenges, you create a culture where your team feels safe to take risks and be open about their own difficulties. This level of trust builds a stronger, more resilient organisation and ultimately reinforces your leadership confidence.

7. Communicate Assertively, Not Aggressively

Clear, purposeful communication is one of the most powerful tools of a confident leader. Practice assertiveness, which strikes the right balance between passivity and aggression. Assertiveness is about communicating your needs, boundaries, and expectations with respect and clarity.

Learning how to communicate assertively fosters stronger relationships, builds respect, and ensures your voice is heard without causing conflict. When you communicate with conviction, people are more likely to follow your lead.

8. Visualise Success

Visualisation is a powerful tool used by top athletes and leaders alike. Before entering high-pressure situations—whether it’s a crucial presentation, a difficult conversation, or an important decision—take time to visualise success. Imagine yourself performing with confidence and clarity, and mentally rehearse the steps you’ll take.

Visualisation conditions your mind to expect success and can alleviate anxiety or hesitation. By mentally preparing yourself, you’ll enter situations with a clear sense of purpose and self-assurance.

9. Lead with Purpose

Confidence in leadership grows when your actions are aligned with your purpose. Know what drives you—whether it’s making an impact, achieving a long-term vision, or championing a cause. When you lead with purpose, your decisions and actions have deeper meaning, and you’ll inspire greater trust and respect from your team.

Purpose-driven leadership also ensures that your confidence doesn’t come off as arrogance because you’ll be grounded in authenticity and service to others. This kind of leadership inspires loyalty and cultivates a culture where everyone feels empowered to contribute.

10. Learn to Be Comfortable with Discomfort

Leadership often involves making tough decisions, navigating uncertainty, and stepping into unfamiliar territory. The more you embrace discomfort, the more your confidence will grow. It’s in these moments of challenge where real growth occurs. When faced with a difficult decision, remind yourself that no leader has all the answers, and that it’s okay to take calculated risks.

Confidence doesn’t come from avoiding challenges—it comes from overcoming them. Stepping into uncomfortable situations and making decisions despite the unknown will strengthen your leadership muscles over time.

11. Empower Your Team

Finally, a confident leader recognises the importance of empowering others. When you enable your team to take ownership of their work, make decisions, and grow, you not only build their confidence but reinforce your own leadership. A team that feels trusted and valued will reflect that trust back to you.

Delegate responsibilities, mentor your team, and celebrate their achievements. As they grow under your leadership, your own confidence will be reinforced by their progress and success.

Leadership Confidence is learned through experience

Confidence isn’t an innate trait—it’s built through experience, action, and persistence. Whether you’re overcoming imposter syndrome, facing new challenges, or navigating uncertainty, these strategies will help you build and sustain the confidence needed to lead effectively.

Leadership is a journey, and confidence is something you continually develop along the way. By embracing growth, acting with purpose, and empowering those around you, you will not only inspire trust and loyalty but also unlock your own potential as a confident, capable leader.

If people enjoy work, the rest will fall into place - Lessons in Culture

Your brand isn’t just your logo and a two-dimensional design. Your brand is your people - their personalities, their behaviours and actions. 
From the first greeting with a customer or client to the final farewell, it’s people who breathe life into your brand and create a meaningful human experience.

When you reflect on meals out you’ve had - which do you remember? Do you remember exactly what you ate and drank? Or do you remember the experience and how you felt? I’m pretty sure that even if you’d had some of the most delicious food in your life if the service was bad and if the staff weren’t warm and friendly you’d think twice about going back and if they were grumpy and rude you wouldn’t go back at all - even for the food.

It’s people make the experience - the emotional connection your customers have with a brand.

For all businesses, not just customer-facing ones, your people build your brand. When people enjoy their work, feel genuinely connected with the brand’s purpose and values, and when they feel valued, your brand and your business will thrive. When people love where they work, that energy radiates outward, creating memorable experiences that resonate with customer.

What is culture?

Culture is the invisible thread that binds an organisation’s values, practices, and people, creating a unique experience for both customers and employees. Culture builds a sense of belonging and guides what we do and how we do it.



• It’s how your people feel on a Sunday night.

• It’s what people say about your when you’re not in the room.

• It’s the thing that connects us.

• It’s what makes us feel alive

At the Propel Talent & Training conference this week, hospitality businesses large and small came together to explore the concept of culture and how to nurture it. 

Ceri Gott is Chief People Officer at award-winning restaurant group Hawksmoor - which has held a place in Best Companies for over 10 years. Gott said

“If your people enjoy work the rest will fall into place.

For her “Culture is a group of talented people creating something special.” 

At Hawksmoor, building and nurturing this culture goes beyond policies; it’s about creating a place where kindness, innovation, and individuality thrive. Founders Huw Gott and Will Beckett say:

Everything stands or falls with people. People are at the heart of every business, nowhere more so than in hospitality. At Hawksmoor, every employee understands they’re not just part of a restaurant—they’re part of a bigger story.

Their ambition according to the Hawksmoor 2023 Impact report is to create:

 “SOMEWHERE YOU CAN FEEL PROUD TO WORK We want people who work at Hawksmoor, and their families, to feel proud of where they work – of the restaurants themselves, of their co-workers, of the company and of the industry. We work hard to build environments where people feel that way, and encourage them to bring families in (with a discount) to help engender that feeling, especially as this is an industry that parents don’t always wish for for their children; mistakenly in our view'.”

They have embraced this by defining values:


Liberating Kindness

Kindness is at the core of Hawksmoor’s ethos. As much as grand gestures this encompasses small things that make a difference - simple acts of appreciation like a thank you or a friendly hello can transform someone’s day. 

Gott said “We recognise that companies that foster kindness not only create a positive workplace but are also more profitable.” Kindness releases oxytocin, the “happy hormone,” which can enhance our immune systems and reduce stress. While negative interactions, such as rudeness or microaggressions, even being a witness to negativity, impacts how much a person can get done in a day and reduces their ability to problem solve.

Be the Change

Hawksmoor recognises that its people are central to innovation. Regular listening and open communication channels help keep ideas fresh and encourage employees to shape the future of the brand. By valuing feedback, they not only improve our services but also empower our staff to take ownership of their roles. The team is what makes Hawksmoor’s culture come alive, with each site’s unique dynamics creating “sub-genres” of the overall brand culture. This practice nurtures a workplace where everyone can contribute to shaping the future.

Every Day’s a School Day

Creating a learning culture where everyone has the opportunity to develop and grow which keeps people in the business, and develop new skills even if they don’t stay. This commitment to learning ensures that every team member feels supported and equipped for success.

You Be You

Diversity and inclusion are more than just buzzwords at Hawksmoor; they are integral to its identity. Co-founder Huw Gott, who was diagnosed with ADHD, openly shares his experiences, encouraging everyone to be their authentic selves. It’s recent staff survey revealed that 97% of employees feel welcomed at Hawksmoor.

The vital role of managers

In recognition of the fact that the number one predictor of how happy someone feels at work is their manager, Hawksmoor is committed to developing leaders who model these standards daily. Managers are recruited for their people skills, and they invest as much time and effort to training managers as much as anything else

Hawksmoor created a new role called ‘Culture GM’. This person looked after the liaison between support teams, operations, and the restaurant teams, ensuring clarity of the organisation’s operational strategy was being delivered in person and across all channels to everyone in the company.

People are your brand

People aren’t just part of your brand; they are your brand. Every interaction with customers and colleagues, every story shared—they’re the lifeblood of your business.

Top Tips for Building a People-Centric Brand

1. Prioritise Empathy and Kindness
   Small gestures and genuine gratitude make a big impact. A culture rooted in understanding, human relationships and kindness is not only supportive but also productive.

2. Encourage Authenticity
   Embrace diversity by allowing your team to bring their full selves to work, promoting a culture of openness and acceptance.

3. Invest in Growth and Development
   Provide continuous learning opportunities that empower employees to grow, ensuring they feel valued and equipped to succeed.

4. Share stories and celebrate success
   Highlight achievements and share stories to foster pride, build camaraderie, and reinforce a culture of recognition and appreciation.

5. Coach leaders to be role models and call them out when they aren’t

6. Don’t tell people how to behave
   Behaviour isn’t black and white - instead suggest boundaries what’s too much what’s not enough.

Do you want to know a secret?

Do you want to know a secret?

Sometimes you try something new, sometimes it doesn't work out . . .

Sometimes the big shiny new opportunity turns out not to be so big and shiny after all . . .

Sometimes you have to admit you made a mistake and you loved and miss what you had before...

So can you guess my secret yet?

I'M BACK!

I'm relaunching my own business because I love helping:
- leaders to grow thriving, innovative and successful businesses
- managers to build happy, engaged and resilient teams.
- people to build confidence, communication and interpersonal skills

Over the next few days, I'll be posting more about my plans and what I've learned this year... so keep your eyes peeled.

How to: Reflective Goal Setting for a Succesful 2024

Reflective Goal Setting for a Succesful 2024 - A How to Guide

The end of the year and the festive break is a natural time to pause and reflect on the past year and consider the year ahead, both for you as an individual and for your business and team. 

Time off work over Christmas is the perfect pause we need to take time to step back from the busyness of our daily lives, to reflect on what is important to us and to set the tone for the year ahead. I encourage you to set aside time to reflect and plan - individually or with your colleagues.

This article explores the benefits of reflective goal setting for both our personal and business success and growth. Read on to find some useful prompts to reflect, grow self-awareness, and clarify your hopes, ambitions and plans for the year ahead.

The power of reflection

Reflection is a powerful tool to find closure on the things that have happened over the last 12 months - personally and professionally.

Reflection isn’t just a retrospective exercise - it will pave the way for setting impactful goals and steering yourself or your businesses toward success in 2024. By increasing your self-awareness, you will be able will be able to move into 2024 stronger and more confident.

As the motivational speaker Ed Foreman says “If we always do what we’ve always done, then we’re going to get what we’ve always got.” So building self-awareness helps to identify patterns that may be keeping you stuck.

Reflecting on everything you have achieved over the last year encourages you (individually or collectively) to celebrate successes. While acknowledging challenges and failures, helps to develop a growth mindset - in other words, to look for opportunities to change and improve.

If there are things that didn’t go so well or that you feel were failures - try to shift your perspective to recognise what you learned from the experience. Changing our perspective allows us to release old patterns, that no longer serve us - try to see things from through fresh eyes. Try not to take the role of victim and things happening TO us, - we can’t control other people, but we can control how we respond. So put yourself in the driving seat, empower yourself and take responsibility for making things happen or making changes in the year ahead.

Once you’re reflected, it’s time to think to the future - dream big and plan your year ahead.

The benefit of setting goals

• Enhanced Clarity and Focus: Goal setting helps to clarify priorities and focus on achieving them.

• Adaptability and Resilience: By learning from past experiences, you will become more adaptable and resilient in the face of challenges.

• Increased Motivation: Clear goals derived from reflection provide motivation and a sense of purpose, driving you and your to perform at their best.

How to reflect on the past and set goals for the future

Change your Perspective

Take yourself out of your usual environment - that’s why using the holiday period is valuable because we are free from the usual pressures of work. If you are doing this exercise for your business and with colleagues - get out of the office - go for a team walk, or go and talk over a coffee or lunch.

Get outdoors 

Personally, I find time outside - walking, running, cycling or just strolling and chatting with a friend, encourages our brains to slow down. It helps us to feel grounded, and gain perspective - reassessing our worries, enabling us to see the bigger picture and recognise what really matters.

Remove Distractions

Create the time and space to do this free of distractions - turn off your phone Focus on your breathing for a few minutes before you start to slow your brain down and bring yourself to the present moment.

Write it down

The process can be a gentle reflective thought process, making notes for yourself or having a discussion with colleagues. I recommend putting pen to paper, it helps to frame the reflections and make your goals concrete. There’s plenty of research that proves that people who write down their goals and objectives are more successful in achieving them.

Business and Team Goals

If you are setting goals for your business or team involve them in the process, and make it a collaborative process to foster a collective commitment. Communicate your grand vision and ask them what theirs is. Agree shared objectives and what everyone’s role is in achieving them. Set milestones and celebrate small successes along the way.

Steps to Reflect and Set Goals for 2024.

1. Start by reviewing the past year.

• Reflect on some or all of the following:
  - your personal and family life

  - your career

  - your wellness, work-life balance and how you have looked after your mental and physical health

• What have been the highlights of your year? 

• What made you happy this year and when were you happiest?

• What are you most grateful for?

• What have been your biggest successes? - try and come up with at least three. 

• What are you most proud of?

• How did you achieve these successes? 

• What’s the biggest risk you took? What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned?

• Identify Lessons Learned

• Is there anything that you didn’t achieve or that you feel you failed at?

• What were the biggest challenges of the year?

• How did you react and cope in the face of these challenges

• What have you learned as a result?

• Is there anything you wish you could have done differently — forgive yourself and leave it behind.

2. Set Goals for 2024

• Start with the end of in mind - your vision - where would you like to be this time next year? 

• Dream your biggest dream. If you could wave a magic wand what would you like to happen?

• What would you like to be celebrating 12 months from now - a new job? A new home? A new business launch?

• What really matters to you? What gets you out of bed in the morning?

• What are the things that make you happy and you need to prioritise this year?

• What should you start doing more of? (e.g. exercising, seeing family, learning something new)

• What should you do less of? (e.g. kicking a bad habit, being less hard on yourself)

• What challenges might there be along the way?

• How can I try to overcome these challenges?

• Who do you need help from and what other resources might you need?

• How will you look after your well-being - your mental and physical health? Are there new boundaries or habits you want to establish - e.g. making more time for exercise or eating better, or setting new boundaries e.g. being disciplined about not checking work emails during your time off?

 3. Define Clear Objectives

With the insights gained, define clear, achievable objectives for the upcoming year. These goals should be SMART—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. They should align with the company’s mission and vision, driving growth and progress.

Next write down the specific tasks and actions you need to make these goals happen.

In Summary

• Use the holidays too make time to unplug, switch off and reflect on the year we’re about to leave behind.

• Let go of anything that was difficult or challenging, but take what you learned with you.

• Consider what you want to achieve in the year ahead.

• Set some time-frames and measures for success.

• Write it all down somewhere you won’t lose it and pull it out monthly or at least a few times during the year ahead to see how you are getting on.

• Celebrate the small steps and milestones along the way and don’t be too hard on yourself about things that don’t go to plan.

My Personal Reflections

As I write this, I have looked back at the goals I set myself on New Year’s Eve last year - many of them have come to fruition - I have established my coaching and leadership development business and have worked with some fantastic individuals and businesses.

I found the courage to resign from a contract that this time last year, was filling me with dread and making me very unhappy, however well paid it was!

I am in the process of buying my own home and moving to Bristol to start a new life.
I have a nearly 365-day streak of learning Spanish on Duolingo!

I supported my son through A-levels and starting university.

I’ve been to dozens of gigs and a handful of music festivals.

And I have spent more time with family, old friends and made lots of new friends too.

Now, I wonder what I’m going to set as my goals for 2024…

How to Cope with Stress

How to Cope with Stress

Christmas is inevitably one of the busiest and most stressful periods for people at work and at home. We have tasks to complete tasks, objectives to achieve or just a sense that we need to get things done before the end of the year.

How do you manage stress and build resilience for you and your team?

Pressure versus Stress

It’s important to remember that there is a difference between pressure and stress. Just like Goldilocks, we want ‘just right’ pressure - not too little and not too much.

When there’s no pressure and we aren’t busy enough feeling, we may feel bored, disengaged and undervalued. While we’re in our comfort zone we are just coasting and have the potential to feel apathetic. But when we experience the ‘just right’ level of pressure we feel focused, alert, stimulated, energetic, motivated and engaged.

There’s a fine line between too the ‘just right’ pressure and too much and that tipping point is going to be different for different people. Be aware of that when you’re thinking about your colleagues and staff.

When we feel stressed we start to make mistakes, feel out of control, become irritable, anxious and experience low morale. In time this can cumulate to cause exhaustion, needing time off and ultimately burnout and mental health issues.

As well as the impact on an individual, the business will suffer from increased staff absence and high turnover. The data is well reported elsewhere.

1. Put your own oxygen mask on first

It’s vital to start with yourself, just as on an airplane we are instructed to put our own oxygen mask on first.

We all need to keep an eye on our personal fuel gauge - just as running out of petrol is bad for your car, letting our own wellness tank run on empty is bad for us.

It is normal to feel pressure and even stress for short periods, but it’s important to recognise when it’s too much it and try to build resilience. Resilience is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things are difficult or don’t go as planned. Resilient people don’t dwell on failures; they acknowledge the situation, learn, and then move forward stronger.

2. Pause and accept how you feel

Be aware of how you feel, your emotions and energy levels and be aware of when you are tipping into the strain or stress zone. Recognise any physical symptoms that are your body’s own warning signs - fast heartbeat, short breathing, knotted stomach or poor sleep.



Pause, recognise and accept how you are feeling.
You can’t always choose the situation that is going on around you at home or work and you can’t choose your emotional response, but you can make choices about how you deal with it.

See the big picture
When we feel stressed our brains are hard-wired to overreact, our perceptions can be warped, we might feel that the world is against us and we might respond by going into fight, flight or freeze mode.

Take a bird's eye view - What do you see from up there? Does it look any different? What would your wisest and kindest friend advise you? How much will this matter a month from now? What about next year?

3. Focus on what you can control

Become aware of how much time and energy you spend worrying about things you can’t control or can’t change. This will help to reduce stress, frustration and overwhelm.

Start by writing a list of your worries and stress and then separate them between:

• Things you can directly control - your own actions or behaviours

• Things you can influence (in other words you can’t control other people or company-wide decisions but you might be able to influence them)

• Things that are completely out of your control

If you focus on what is within your control you can shift your attention, be more proactive and productive.

This concept of Circles of Control was popularised by Steven Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

4. Avoid, Alter, Accept Adapt

Once you’ve identified the causes of your stress, you have four options:

1. AVOID - Know your limits and try to stick to them. If you are asked to take on more than you can manage, or asked to do one too many things, can you learn to say no? It’s not easy to say no, especially if are short-staffed, but can you at least start the conversation and explore reprioritising tasks or reallocating them?

2. ALTER - if you can’t avoid the pressure or stressful situation, work out what you can do to change it. Sometimes this involves expressing your feelings instead of bottling them up. Be open about your limits. Remember to use "I" statements, as in, "I feel frustrated by being asked to take this on. Is there something we can do to balance things out?" Is there anything you can do to manage your time better? Block out time to focus on specific tasks and try and avoid interruptions, and group certain tasks together into chunks of time.

3. ADAPT - Can adapt to the pressures by reframing problems and trying to see the positives. What are you grateful for? Let go of perfectionism and recognise when good is good enough.

4. ACCEPT - Many sources of stress are unavoidable and you just have to accept them and deal with them. If you find that hard, is there someone you can talk to? Sometimes changing your surroundings just for a minute can help break out of a sense of powerlessness. Opening up to someone else can also reduce stress because it helps to distance ourselves from it and gain perspective.

5. Make time to decompress

Make sure you give yourself the time and the space to decompress. When we’re exhausted from work, it’s easy to stop looking after ourselves outside work, especially if you are getting home late at night or if you work from home and there aren't any boundaries.

Use your journey home from work to reflect, think about the good things that happened today, and let go of the difficult things while exploring what could be different next time. Writing stuff down can help to get it out of your head, even if you wake up in the middle of the night worrying about work, use the Notes or reminder function on your phone or carry a good old-fashioned notebook, to write down the things you need to do tomorrow, then let it go until tomorrow.

Make sure you try and make time to rest and relax, do something you enjoy every day whatever that may be for you - from walking your dog or meeting a friend for coffee. Make time to connect with friends and family outside work. Time spent outside and exercising is essential for our wellbeing as is eating well, staying hydrated and good sleep.

It’s not easy to switch off when we are constantly available via email or messages pop up on WhatsApp. Use your phone's “do not disturb functions’ to turn off notifications from work contacts when you’re not in work.

Any small steps you can take will help you to build resilience and cope with stress.

6. Supporting your staff’s wellness

When it comes to your staff, invest time in their wellbeing and create a supportive environment that considers the whole person and treats them as individuals.

On a day-to-day basis encourage positive relationships between colleagues and foster a supportive atmosphere where people are kind to each other and listen and support each other. Doing nice things for other people releases oxytocin which makes you feel good about yourself.

Foster a culture that promotes a good work-life balance. Encourage people to take breaks, leave on time and take their holiday allowance. Promote the importance of self-care: rest, relaxation, exercise, diet and sleep.

Proactively monitor everyone’s workload. Make sure that work is clearly defined, is well-matched to their abilities and that deadlines are acceptable.

If you work on a shift/rota basis: Strive to get staffing levels and rotas right, try to ensure rotas are fair and considerate to everyone, especially during the busy and sometimes unpredictable Christmas season - it’s the key to maintaining a happy and motivated workforce.

Provide rotas as far ahead as possible so that people can plan and enjoy their days off. Be as flexible as you can be allowing people to swap shifts within reason, and make it acceptable to take sick leave for mental health challenges.

Keep communicating – make time to talk to your staff and regularly check-in with them individually and privately. Be transparent with staff about what is going on in the business and be honest with them - for example about reasons why you may need them to take on more work. Mutual trust is the number one factor in creating a positive culture and relationship between manager and staff.

Foster a culture where people can come and talk to you and share their problems inside or outside work. Ask open questions, listen and be respectful and ask them what they need from you, whether that’s more support or training, time-off (for mental or physical health) or sign-posting to professional advice.

Finally, look out for staff who are struggling and ask them what they need. You can’t force them to change or seek help, but be aware that there are lots of resources and sources of support out there for people who are struggling.

If you would like to talk to someone about how to deal with stress, manage your workload, build resilience, and support your team, please get in touch. I offer a free 30 minute coaching session to explore how I can support you. You can email me polly@pollyrobinson.co.uk

The Crucial Role of Effective Management: Insights from CMI Research

The Crucial Role of Effective Management: Insights from CMI Research

People don’t leave companies, they leave managers. New research from the Chartered Management Institute (CMI) has highlighted the impact that managers have on employee’s motivation, job satisfaction, and their desire to stay with an organisation. A good leader brings people together to drive toward a common goal.

The CMI report Taking Responsibility - Why the UK Needs Better Managers conducted in partnership with YouGov reveals:


• One in four of the UK workforce holds a management role

• Only just over a quarter (27%) of employees describe their manager as highly effective.

• Half (50%) of those who don’t rate their manager say they plan to leave their company in the next Only 34% feel motivated to do a good job.

The significance of effective managers becomes evident when considering the impact on employee loyalty.

• 72% of workers who rated their managers as effective felt valued and appreciated.

• Conversely, only 15% of those with ineffective managers felt similarly valued.

Accidental Managers

Managing a team of people is something that we often fall into. We get promoted because of our skill or ability, because we are technically competent and suddenly we are responsible for other people with no support or guidance about how to be a manager.

Good management and leadership practices are linked to improved performance, higher retention rates, the creation of positive work environments (culture), and the achievement of business objectives

The report confirms that many people are ‘Accidental Managers’ promoted just because they are “popular, good at their job, or happen to be available to take charge.”

• 82% of people who enter management positions have not had any proper management and leadership training.

• Nearly half, 46% of managers believe colleagues won promotions based on internal relationships and profile, rather than their ability and performance.

The research found a consistent link between managers who had received management training and more effective organisations. Many people surveyed emphasised that without adequate management and leadership development, they lack the confidence to perform their roles and deliver results effectively.

Meanwhile, managers who had received training, said that they ask their team members for feedback, are more comfortable with managing big changes, and are also able to leverage technology to improve efficiency.

In conclusion, the CMI's research shines a spotlight on the pivotal role of effective management in fostering a positive work environment, employee satisfaction, and strategic success. It also highlights the pressing need for comprehensive management and leadership development programmes to equip future leaders with the skills and knowledge required to excel in their roles. It's time to invest in better management practices to shape the future of work.

Why is Management and Leadership Important?

This report demonstrates a clear need for more training not only for new and emerging managers but also for experienced ones. Management is not just a title or a position; it's a set of skills and qualities that can be honed and developed over time. Leadership training plays a pivotal role in shaping individuals into successful leaders. Let's explore what leadership training can achieve.

What is the impact and benefit of management training?

1. Goal Setting and Vision

   Improves strategic focus by ensuring that everyone is pulling in the same direction. Teaches goal-setting techniques and strategic planning, enabling leaders to inspire their teams with a compelling vision for the future.


2. Decision-Making and Problem-Solving
   Instills effective decision-making frameworks and problem-solving methodologies, ensuring that leaders can navigate challenges with confidence.


3. Enhanced Self-awareness
   Leadership training often begins with self-assessment. It encourages individuals to reflect on their strengths, weaknesses, and personal values. When leaders understand themselves better, they can relate to their teams more authentically and make informed decisions.


4. Reduce Turnover and Boost Retention
   Build a positive community where people feel heard, valued and appreciated. In turn they will be more loyal and committed.

5. Build a Strong Culture and High-Performing Teams

   Discover insights into team dynamics, motivation techniques, and strategies for building a positive and collaborative work culture.


6. Increase Productivity and Efficiency 

   Improves time management and prioritisation by equipping managers with techniques to maximise productivity, delegate tasks, and focus on what matters most.


7. Cultivate Emotional Intelligence

   Support managers to be more emotionally intelligent and improve self-awareness, confidence and relationships with others.


8. Improve Communication Skills
   Equip individuals with the tools and techniques to communicate expectations, give feedback and resolve conflicts. Better communication fosters trust and transparency within the team.

9. Build Resilience and Adaptability 

   Helps leaders to embrace change, stay resilient in the face of setbacks, and lead their teams through uncertainty.


10. Continuous Improvement
    Fosters a growth mindset, where leaders are open to learning, feedback, and self-improvement.

Polly Robinson is an Executive Coach and Leadership Development Trainer.
She designs and develops bespoke management and leadership training programmes as well as offering some online leadership workshops for anyone to join.

Mastering Performance Management: 10 Tips to giving feedback

One of the most challenging things about becoming a manager is building the confidence to give effective feedback to your team. Delivering positive or negative feedback can feel daunting, you might not want to come across as soft and gushing, worry about being critical and being disliked, or just giving feedback that is unhelpful and demotivating.

FEEDBACK CREATES A CULTURE WHERE PEOPLE FEEL VALUED

In hospitality, people are our greatest asset and so, of course, their performance and attitude are central to the customer experience and business success. Giving regular feedback creates a virtuous circle of development and improvement.

So giving feedback is crucial to keeping your team on track, boosting quality and performance, to avoiding or repeating mistakes, and giving people the opportunity to grow and develop. When delivered well it can be inspiring and motivating. Creating a culture at work where feedback is a regular habit will strengthen relationships and boost retention. A feedback culture helps employees feel valued and heard, promotes accountability and encourages people to take an active role in their own development.

Feedback can be formal and planned as part of a one-to-one conversation or regular performance review or it can be informal and ad hoc, but remember that the quality of the feedback is more important than the frequency.

HOW TO DELIVER EFFECTIVE FEEDBACK

There’s a huge difference in impact between giving feedback badly or well. Badly delivered feedback can sound judgemental, vague or intangible, and saved up until it becomes irrelevant, an irritation or a resentment.

Phrases like “Why didn’t you do that?”, “Why did that happen?”, “You never do this”, “You should do that” or worst of all “If I were you…” (Nobody likes a know-all!) This will create a defensive response and people will tune out and switch off.

TOP 10 TIPS FOR DELIVERING EFFECTIVE FEEDBACK

1. SPECIFIC AND UNBIASED

The sweet spot is to deliver feedback (and I’m talking about both positive and negative feedback here) that is specific, unbiased and descriptive. A useful way to remember this is with the acronym: AID - which stands for:

• Action

• Impact

• Direction.

Start by objectively describing the action, what did or didn’t happen, explain the impact of that and then explore together how to move forward, make sure it doesn’t happen again or make it even better next time. Rather than making assumptions use phrases like “I noticed” or “I believe”. e.g.

“When the handover to the next team shift wasn’t done, I noticed the impact was that this task got forgotten.”

2. FEED FORWARD NOT BACK

There’s a popular concept called “feed forward” which focuses not on what has happened in the past, you can’t change the past and focus instead on the future. It’s more effective to help people learn to be right than to prove that they were wrong and that people will respond much more positively, listening better and coming up with their own ideas for improvement. You can use examples and give suggestions and encouragement for improvement.

3. MAKE IT A DIALOGUE

Next, make a feedback discussion a conversation - a dialogue, not a monologue. Ask people what they felt or observed was the impact, use questions to raise their awareness and ask them how they think they could do better next time. This will show your commitment to helping the person improve, grow and develop.

4. IN THE MOMENT

Make feedback immediate, don’t save it up until it becomes an issue or resentment. Suppose you have a process of performance appraisals or reviews. In that case, it can be tempting to hold back until the next one, but giving feedback should be part of your everyday management of your staff - a continuous loop: agree on next steps and objectives, monitor and support, review and reward.

5. IN THE RIGHT SETTING

You’ve probably heard the phrase “Praise in public and criticise in private’. Public praise in front of peers and colleagues adds more weight to the praise, reinforces positive performance and encourages others to emulate. But if you have more critical feedback to give, it’s kinder to find a private place to talk and you are less likely to provoke a defensive response.

6. DELIVERED THOUGHTFULLY

Be aware of your words and your thoughts. Remember that communication happens on different levels - what you mean to say, what you actually say, what the receiver hears and how they interpret it. When giving feedback try to be a fair witness, an observer - so even if you think someone is stupid or lazy, you need to describe their behaviour and its actions on the rest of the team or your customers. Leave your personal opinions and judgment at the door.

7. DEALING WITH CHALLENGING SITUATIONS

And what if you have a more serious issue to deal with and are dreading a difficult conversation?

This is the time to not respond in haste or anger, take some to calm down, reflect and prepare for the conversation and be clear what you want to get out of it. Ask the person for a meeting and give them some time to prepare too. It may be helpful to ask someone else to sit in the meeting - e.g. someone from HR or operations. Make it clear that you are trying to find a way to move forward and find solutions together. Make sure that the meeting is noted for future reference and share it with them afterwards.

During the conversation try to regulate your emotions, getting angry will not help, describe the issue and its impact, be factual and specific. Avoid playing ‘You Tennis’ where you make the feedback very personal “You did that…”, “you are always late” and turn it into personal observations such as “I noticed that this happened and it had this impact” or “I’m aware that when you arrive late it means we’re behind all day.”

Then open up the conversation giving the recipient time to tell it from their perspective, listen and pause, before clarifying and summarising. Use phrases like “How do you feel about this?” Or “Is this a fair representation of what happened?”

8. PROBLEM SOLVE TOGETHER

Then move into problem-solving together, asking questions to mutually agree next steps and finally suggest a follow-up meeting. You can be clear about your exceptions and what improvement looks like.

In serious cases, it’s essential to make clear the consequences of continued performance or behaviour issues. This doesn’t mean threatening that they will lose their job, but could include a formal warning or losing a bonus.

9. FORMAL AND INFORMAL, REGULAR AND AD HOC

The practice of regular formal performance reviews once or twice a year is evolving. Any manager who has had to deliver these for a team will know how time-consuming they can be and the temptation to save up difficult subjects until they are long overdue discussions. Employees can dread these formal meetings and find them demotivating. As a result, many businesses are moving away from them towards less formal, more regular performance conversations.

If your company still has a process of formal appraisals, the same principles as giving informal feedback. It should be a dialogue, not a monologue. The discussion must be fair, specific, consistent and forward-looking apply. Use specific examples to illustrate both the positive and negative such as customer feedback or information from colleagues.

10. ASK QUESTIONS

A vital part of any appraisal conversation is to start by asking the employee how they think they are getting on and explore their aspirations what skills (hard or soft) they want to develop and what are their future aspirations.

Together you should agree on future goals and targets that are aligned with the company’s values and overall objectives, this way staff feel they have a role to play in the vision and ambition of the business. These objectives should be SMART: specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound. Record them on paper or digitally then you can review progress regularly.

If you can create an environment where feedback is regular and a two-way conversation, you will create a culture where people feel motivated, supported and inspired to keep learning and growing.

Why should anyone be led by you?

Have you heard the old cliché:

"People don’t quit a bad job, they quit a bad boss?"

Perhaps you can think of a time when you’ve left a job purely because you didn’t get on with your manager? 

Leaders I speak to in every sector say that recruiting and retaining talent is currently the biggest barrier to growth. So there has never been a more important time for managers, to reflect on how they are as bosses, managers and leaders to create a positive environment and build a committed team. 

We fall into management

Managing a team of people is something that we often fall into. We get promoted because of our skill or ability, and suddenly we are responsible for other people. You need them to respect you, listen to you and be loyal to you, but it isn’t always easy. 

Here are my tips for being a better leader and understanding the difference between leadership and management. 

SELF-AWARENESS

Developing your leadership ability begins with some self-reflection and self-awareness of how your behaviour impacts those around you? What sort of boss are you - are you an inspiring leader or hands-on manager? Do you have rapport and trust with your team? Are you able to empower and energise your team? Are you consistent and able to keep your cool under pressure? 

It can be valuable to reflect on the best managers you’ve had or even the most inspirational teachers? How did it make you feel and how did it impact your commitment? I imagine the ones you remember inspired and motivated you, you will have felt they listened to and valued and as a result, you felt more committed and focussed. 

SHARE A VISION & INSPIRE

A leader needs to look beyond the day-to-day and ‘dream great dreams” Imagine your vision is to create a wildflower meadow and you have a team of people to do the hard work. A manager would give a specific list of instructions and tasks to each person - ask them to drill the soil, to plant the seeds in a specific way and to water it precisely. While a leader will share his vision of a beautiful colourful meadow, rich in biodiversity and ask the team how you can work together collectively to make that dream a reality. Which do you think is the most inspiring, motivating and going to get the best results? 

A manager’s job is to set operational objectives and standards, but as a leader it’s your role to communicate the vision, the big picture, and share a purpose and values in a way that will appeal to your team and that will motivate them to get out of bed in the morning. Make sure that even people with the most mundane jobs, can see how their role is key to achieving that vision. 

BUILD TRUST & RAPPORT

How strong are your relationships with your team, do they trust you and do you trust them? Without that individuals are only working for themselves and not for the team. Building rapport begins with growing your emotional intelligence, being able to see the whole person not just the worker, making time for one-to-one catch-ups and checking in on people’s wellbeing as well as just everyday tasks. 

Practice deep listening and paying attention to non-verbal communication as well as the words that are being said, sometimes the words coming out of someone’s mouth don’t match what their body language might be telling you. 

Are you able to keep your cool under pressure? How consistent and reliable are you? There’s nothing more tricky than tiptoeing on eggshells around your manager because you don’t know what mood they’re bringing to work that day. We’re all human and sometimes things can get too much, so if you do lose it sometimes, apologise, admit you were wrong and accept accountability for your mistakes. Demonstrating vulnerability is key to building trust. 

EMPOWER & ENABLE

To what extent do you give your employees autonomy and consult with them for their ideas and input? Give your employees the opportunity to contribute creatively, to solve challenges or own a project. Treat them as responsible adults, giving them agency to decide how they carry out their work (where possible) and to make a meaningful contribution to the business. This creates an environment where people feel that they are contributing to the greater good and will go over and above. 

SHOW APPRECIATION

It’s human nature to want to feel valued and appreciated. Feeling undervalued is one of the most frequently given reasons for leaving a job. While people who feel appreciated are more loyal and committed. Yet, we’re too often wrapped up in just getting the job done to remember to stop and thank people for their contributions. 

So as a leader, think about how you recognise people’s contribution, from small thank yous for getting a task done, to giving feedback to support people with their personal development or celebrating successes over a team drink. 

WHEN TO LEAD & WHEN TO MANAGE 

There is no right or wrong here, there’s a time and a place for both management and leadership. A good leader will be able to adapt depending on the person, the task, the context and the urgency. If you have a new starter with little experience or none of the technical skills required for the job, then you will need to be more manager, giving clear instructions and checking in on progress. In an urgent situation, for example, dealing with a difficult customer, again you may need to step in and manage the situation more closely. But when you are dealing with someone who is highly committed, whether or not they have the experience or skill, you can step back to a more supportive, coaching role, ask for their ideas and help them develop their skills. This gives them the chance to feel they are making a valuable contribution, to feel that they are being challenged and to grow their experience and confidence. 

Less experienced managers usually find themselves more at the directive managerial end of the spectrum, telling, showing, instructing, and often admit to micromanaging because it’s easier and quicker, but this is the fast track to creating low morale and unengaged teams. 

If you do one thing after reading this piece

Set aside a bit of time to reflect on how you show up at work, how your leadership approach impacts the people around you, why would anyone want to be led by you, what are your strengths and what do you perhaps need to work on?

If you are interested in exploring how these ideas apply to your experience and role, please get in touch about one-to-one coaching or my leadership development workshops.

Polly Robinson is an Executive Coach and Leadership Development Facilitator specialising in Working with leaders in hospitality.